Thoughtfulness - The biggest turn on ever?
When I first met my husband, the one thing I remember saying about him was how thoughtful he was.
He really seemed to care - not just on the surface, but in a way that showed he was paying attention. Even though he barely knew me, the things he said revealed that he wanted to know me. He wanted to understand me.
He knew I had children, so he would say things with them in mind.
He knew I had a business, so he would ask about it with genuine interest.
He listened - and then he acted in ways that reflected what he’d heard.
That’s the thing about thoughtfulness: it makes you feel seen.
It makes you feel important.
Like you’re not just an afterthought, but considered.
Worthy of time, energy, and attention.
You feel like you matter.
But over time - especially in long-term relationships - that kind of thoughtfulness often fades.
We begin to take one another for granted.
What once felt like sweet curiosity or sacred attention becomes…. assumed.
We stop asking questions.
We stop reaching for depth.
We stop making the effort to truly see the person we chose.
And in doing so, we slowly forget how it feels to be cherished - and how powerful it is to offer that feeling to someone else.
But we don’t have to stay in that space of forgetting.
We can choose to bring thoughtfulness back - not in grand gestures (though those are welcome too), but in small, sacred ways that say:
“I see you.”
“I want to know you - not just who you were, but who you’re becoming.”
“You matter to me.”